Good things about dating ugly guys
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.After coaching women for many years, I already suspected this, but this was a stark realization when you see just how few men you even find to be average looking. Ok Cupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5X more email than average women and 28X more email than unattractive women.
We may have our own judgements about people who date "out of their league", but hey--they're the one who ended up with Mr. So next time instead of just saying how "they're rich", or "got lucky", what about creating some of that for yourself?Take David Beckham, for instance: The squeaky voice, the dull-as-ditchwater personality, that sarong... Give me a crooked nose, a lanky body and a gap between the teeth any day.Then celebrate because, while it may not seem like it on the surface, you are going to have a much happier life than the hapless woman who snapped up the Adonis lookalike.If going for someone you’re physically attracted to can lead to a dead end, is going for someone you’re not physically attracted to a good idea?Tessina shares that there are many more meaningful components of relationships than physical attraction.“Relationships require character, emotional maturity and partnership, to which looks don't contribute at all.Looks may get your attention initially, but in a loving relationship, it soon fades and is replaced by love, caring and respect,” assures Tessina.
A friend forwarded me an article about looks on the dating site Ok Okay, maybe it didn’t blow my mind, but it did validate everything that I’ve ever said about online dating.
Literally 2/3 of male messages go to the best looking 1/3 of women.
As Ok Cupid observed, the medical term for this is “male pattern madness”.
I've every sympathy with a bloke who thinks he's not getting the girls because of his less than dazzling looks. But Christ, isn't this just a little bit defeatist? I bumped into a very good friend at a wedding the other day. I think she moved straight to "you're a humourless idiot.
I know the paper bag over the head is a joke but come on, look at those slumped shoulders, the 'poor me' posture. Looks-wise he's a bit like chopped liver but there he was happily introducing me to his latest hot conquest. Well, he's funny, he writes, he sings, he plays the odd instrument and makes a decent living from it. Next."Would she have been as swift to bin a humourless hunk? A quick meaningless shag is a quick meaningless shag.
Ugly men, according to research published this week, are a safe bet when it comes to love.