Internet dating guide pros cons
– An avatar, album cover, or picture of something that’s not at all you: Don’t get all “don’t judge me for my looks” on me. And he’s more initially attractive than you’d think.
Use of the Internet has changed the way we date, offering both positive and negative consequences.1. One of the best changes is in the way that potential daters meet each other — you don't have to go out to the bar scene unless you really want to.Potential dates used to be a real crap-shoot and chances weren't always good that you would roll a winner.Having a guaranteed variety of choices is a wonderful change from the old days of dating when it used to be hard just to meet people in general let alone to meet potential partners.3. With the Internet and all of the information it can provide, those so-called "first date jitters" will be no more.Online dating certainly is a grab bag of experiences. I like to start with the negatives so we can end on a high note. The solution: Stick to people in your league/level from their looks, age, occupation, location — it will increase your chances.On the one hand, you hear horror stories of psychos and unsolicited d*** pics, and on the other hand, you personally know several couples who have met and married over the thing. You’re never reminded of the fallibility of human kind as you are when you are online dating. And don’t put stock into anything or anyone until you’ve met. The paradox of choice teaches us that the more options we have, the unhappier we are and the more paralyzed we become to choose. Sure there are lots of people online and the grass can always feel greener for another date. But not too specific because most people don’t love 18th-century colonial architecture AND Maya Angelou. Pro: You know what’s more relaxing than spending an entire Sunday hungover, in sweats, on the couch, eating Mexican/Chinese/Italian, talking to your girlfriends about what happened last night and watching reality TV marathons? Pro: You know that one picture that someone you love took of you when you’d just found out some awesome news or did some kick-ass thing at work, or maybe you were traveling and you’re all glowing and the lighting’s perfect and you’re not wearing that much makeup because you forgot all about it that morning and yeah girl, you look TONED at that angle, you been doing pilates? Con: I don’t know the percentage of people who post profile pictures of themselves from five years, two inches of hairline, and 20 pounds ago, but that number is HIGH. Pro: Unlike at the bar, where staring at anyone for more than six seconds can get you beat up or roofied, here you can stare all you want. You’ll end up sitting across from Pam from accounting in a strategy meeting and only seeing “MBA ISO BBM 4 sum PDA, NSA” plastered across her forehead.
And you want to be specific, because we’re looking for someone who really GETS you, you know?
– An errant hand around your shoulder or a side of a face: What kind of person crops their best buddy out of a picture? Con: So we’re at the point now where everybody does it, right? Our entire lives are spent with our nose in a screen, and 90% of us at least have a dormant Friendster profile. Con: Do you have time to deal with that one guy that you went out with that one time, and is now phone/email/Twitter/Facebook stalking you?
Spending an entire Sunday hungover, in sweats, on the couch, eating Mexican/Chinese/Italian, talking to your girlfriends about what happened last night and scrolling through dating profiles. No matter how good your profile is, your picture is eleventythousand more times important. This is what they’re saying inside when they look at your picture: – If taken in the bathroom mirror: is the line for on-line dating. – ECU of a single feature: You’re hiding something. Stare until his image is burned into your brain, and feel free to imagine if he’ll go well with that sundress you just bought, and in your passenger seat, and with your faces squished together in a photo booth. Pro: Great alternative for those who don’t have time to go out every night in the hopes of “meeting someone” (blech).
I have this problem whenever I try to buy a nice cheese. If there were three choices, I’d be like, cool, I found cheese. Practice the idea that you’re just meeting people to know if they qualify for second place, not for life partner status. The solution: Check the options on the service you’re using.
The grocery store has a wall of them, and I really have no idea how to tell if I’m going to like a random one. People don’t write anything interesting, their photos are terrible and they don’t understand how to communicate. The solution: Not much you can do here besides suggesting some helpful tips to them, and they may freak out at you. They can often help you filter, block and report unsolicited/ egregious behavior.
And remind yourself that you just have to find one good one. At first it sounds fun to shop around for new folks, but then you get eye-strain and realize everyone sounds the same and you can’t tell if you like them. Everything in moderation — just like the good doctor tells you. There are companies like mine that take the weight off. Everybody gets rejected or neglected at one time or another online.