French dating vs american dating
As a New Yorker, getting used to girls (who are not hookers) walking down the street with their bum cheeks popping out of their shorts is still a bit shocking.
As university was free for many decades in the UK, it’s quite likely British men will have attended college and hold a degree.Nor did I know about this first date, second date and third date business.In France, it’s very common for a girl to go out to dinner with a male friend.They don’t always prearrange dates; expect to get a few last minute calls asking for your company.Their dates aren’t always one-on-one; expect a good amount of those calls I mentioned (especially at first) to include the company of some friends. In the UK and US it’s not uncommon to date a couple of people at the same time and get to know them before you decide if you want to pursue a serious relationship with one of them and get rid of the rest. During this “get to know you” period, you may kiss one or more of your suitors just to test the waters or move things past the “just friends” label.Lastly, British men do a bit more grooming than American men, so be prepared for straightened hair (this is not unusual), well groomed eyebrows, and open shirts revealing a bit of chest hair.
Also, men in the UK don’t cat-call after women or touch women while on a dance floor, so women here feel much more comfortable wearing more revealing clothing on dates and to clubs.
While I usually don’t subscribe to most stereotypes, there are always a few that are true enough to merit their labels. Playful—but always polite—conversations can be had between friends, between strangers, and even between married men and women with people who aren’t their significant other (gasp! In other cultures this may raise a few eyebrows, and tempers, but in France it’s just a conversation, there’s no strings attached. It’s more complicated than that, but that’s the most concise way I can think to put it.
While in the US and the UK “dating” is seen as a series of meetings that adheres to certain rules and protocols—waiting the proper amount of time before calling someone, arranging a date, wait appropriate number of dates before initiating appropriate amount of intimacy—before the time comes to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk, the French tend to have a more laid back attitude.
Even for a married woman to go out with a male friend who is single: I often travel to Paris by myself, Leyla and Olivier stay in Paimpol, and have dinner with one (or several) of our good male friend(s), single or not.
Olivier trusts me, and we both trust our friend(s), who would never make a pass at me.
Luckily you do; otherwise you wouldn’t be here, right?