Courting christian dating
When hearing the term, many have images of their grandparents being chaperoned by their parents with their special someone.In those days, courting was about getting to know your potential partner as much as possible in a safe, pure environment.
It’s time for Christians to resurrect the idea of courting and redefine what godly relationships should look like. God instructs us to “.be yoked together with unbelievers..” (2 Corinthians , NIV).And with today’s modern attitudes toward dating, we’re tempted to look to serve ourselves first before thinking of the needs of others.All these factors have led to a sharp decrease in the idea of “courtship” as opposed to dating.He was reacting against the casual, recreational, aimless dating that had come to dominate the American landscape. But, as we are so prone to do, we took good principles and distorted them and distilled them into a series of unhelpful/legalistic practices.He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.I want to suggest that we can make this whole dating thing a lot simpler and less confusing by simply holding fast to the clear, relatively few principles spelled out in Scripture. Christians Pursue Jesus Above All This is the overriding principle which must govern every relationship.
Loving Jesus first and foremost means seeking him above all else and obeying his commands above all else. Once this is set firmly in place for both individuals in the relationship, many of the other details will fall into place.
In fact, many young singles today don’t even know there’s a difference between the two.
Here’s a quick refresher to help you decide if courtship or dating is the right path to finding the person you’re meant to be with.
And here’s the kicker: believe it or not, the Bible doesn’t actually say a whole lot about dating/courting relationships.
When we place our above Biblical principles, it’s a recipe for disaster.
While dating can be more casual in nature, courtship has a decidedly more serious goal in mind: marriage.